4.13.2004

Signed, Goofy Nutter


This morning, I asked M. what he thought of me.
"You mean, like how?" he asked back.
"Well you feel like you know me, so how would you describe me?" I said. I don't know why I was asking. I suppose lately I've been feeling quite negative about myself so I wanted some answers that would help to break me out of my 'Oh Poor Me, I Am So The Poor Little Matchstick Girl' mode. I have been in an Active Aggressive/Depressive Mood - the type where you *hate* work, *hate* your clothes (but I love my new bag from Patong), *hate* yourself for not getting interviews - and I needed to stop the downward spiral. I didn't expect the answer I got, however. This all goes to show that you may think you know someone, and you think you can predict what they would say, but no, that person has the infinite capacity to go off and do something completely different. I suppose I was expecting M. to say something along the lines of 'concentrated', 'focused' 'aggressive' or something. But instead, he said,"I guess you're kind of goofy."
"Goofy?" I repeated.
"Yes. And you are a nutter," he said. He laughed when he said 'nutter', enunciating the 't's the way that I do, I think because it's a word that he picked up from me.
"Goofy?" I repeated again.

So there you have it. My self-image of being this dragon-lady is completely false. I am a goofy nutter. At least he didn't say 'axe-murderer', so I suppose that's a good thing. I tell you, nothing beats getting great feedback from your jet-lagged loved one to get you rocketing up to your feet. M. is sleeping now. So I have the whole day to work out psychoanalysis questions following on from the 'goofy nutter' remark:

- TOP TEN QUESTIONS FOR M., PROUD PARTNER OF A GENUINE G.N. -

1. Did you think you would get into bed with me after saying that?
2. Say 'no' to number one, OK? Just humour me.
3. When you say 'goofy', are you referring to the fact that I have klutzy tendencies to break things?
4. Or are you referring to the fact that I walk into perfectly stationary furniture/people on the street/lamp posts?
5. Or all of the above?
6. And by the way, it's been a whole year since I broke dishes while doing the washing up, didn't you know?
7. When you say 'nutter', are you saying I am a crazed dingbat but that you are still affectionate towards me (as far as one can be affectionate towards dingbats)?
8. Because that's actually really sweet, you know?
9. Not that I think you should go around telling random people of your penchant for dingbats. They could consider you to be a nutter, you see?
10. Do you wish you'd never said 'goofy nutter'?

Oh boy. I just realised I typed this post in a low-sugar moment (see here). I may have to take this post down after lunch.


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